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As part of the campaign against under age marriage, Nollywood actress and musician, Stella Damasus lends her voice to the #ChildNotBride campaign!

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The recent Constitutional Review carried out by the Nigerian Senate caused agitation and uproar, when the Senate resolved to retain section 29(4)(b) of the Constitution of the Federal Republic of Nigeria (CFRN).

Taken literally, this provision of the CFRN provides that for the purpose of renunciation of Nigerian citizenship, any woman is deemed to be of full age. After this resolution, Nigerians home and abroad began a campaign- #ChildNotBride- on the premise that the retention of this provision of the CFRN somehow endorses child marriage.

It is shameful that while our neighbors like Ghana are planning to increase d marriageable age from 21 to 23 years, Nigeria is debating whether or not child marriage should be allowed. Simply put, child marriage is repulsive, reprehensible, appalling, abhorrent, etc.

This is what a well known senator  had to say concerning the issue:

Ahmed Yerima-
‘Nigeria has many uncountable problems and none of them is early marriage. As a matter of fact early marriage is the solution to about half of our problems. For those who wonder if I can give my daughter(s) out in marriage at the age of 9 or 13, I tell you most honestly, I can give her out at the age of 6 if I want
to and its not your business.

This is because I am a Muslim and I follow the example of the best mankind, Muhammad. In Islam, marriage is not on about séx, it is about family and helping one another in achieving their
goals, which is the attainment of Paradise.

In Islam, a girl can be given out in marriage as early
as 6 years old, but consummátion of the marriage can only be done when the girl becomes physically mature and she gives her consent to it because unlike English law, it is not permissible for a man To
Molést his wife in Shari’ah Law.

After reading what this ‘gentleman’ said, i was speechless, annoyed frustrated and sick of this country..i had no words to express such anger… well, not until stella damascus (a well known nollywood actress and widow 😦 ) came out and blasted the Nigerian senate and also our beloved mummy first lady on their lack of common sense.. thank you stella  😀

what did she say?

In her words Stella said, “I have read and studied all the stupid reasons that Senator Yerima and his colleagues have tabled to sponsor the bill…I can not believe the Senators of Nigeria would waste tax payers money sitting down and planning to legalize the selfish interest of some old randy men in marrying off young girls…”

The Widow star didn’t stop at Senator Yerima as she gave a piece of her mind to the Nigeria first lady, Patience Jonathan.

Oh wait a minute, where is the first lady of Nigeria, Patience Jonathan? Why haven’t we heard your voice? You derive pleasure in lending your voice to issue that do not concern you but this issue is right under you and we expect to hear your voice because you are the mother of Nigeria…mother of the nation…If you do not stand up and put a stop to this madness, then I’m really sorry, it’s a shame!” Stella gushed.

Apparently, some senators have come out to say that their motion was mis-interpreted by Nigerians..  a certain senator Odunsi had this to say

What the Senate attempted to do that day was to expunge that clause but couldn’t do so due to shortage of 13 votes because 60 senators voted for its removal as against 73 required votes while 35 voted for its retention.

“Therefore, from what happened on the floor of the Senate last Tuesday, the Senate attempted to expunge the somewhat archaic clause and not in any way created the law as now wrongly portrayed by Nigerians”, he clarified.

Source: Vanguard News

*sigh* Seeing a list of 35 senators that supported this just kills my heart, are these the people that Nigerians have voted into power to rule them. If yes is the answer then this is not a country I will want to be a citizen, a country where the future of my unborn child is uncertain and where a grown man in his supposed ‘right senses’ would want to get married to a 13 year old child. It is barbaric to ask a child to be a mother, ask another child to beget another child. At age 13 I know that I would want my daughter to have all the loving and care in the world and not be bothered about such things as marriage and the issues that trail it. We have more pressing issues of ASSU strike, NUPENG issues, electricity issues, Boko Haram crisis and some other insecurity issues, education is in a sorry state, most of our roads are nothing but routes to hell, death traps and all these are relegated to the backburner to bring up an issue that shouldn’t have even seen the light of day in the first instance.

*sigh* last thoughts? Give the girl child a pen and not a penis, give her books and leave her boobs, an education and not ejaculation. Speak out today so that we do not get trodden up, our voices must be heard.

#ChildNotBride Give The Girl a pen not a penis

Here’s a story of a couple, Sam and Tonia , cute couple, always there for each other and madly in love too.. but on this very day, well, things became a little different..


Have you ever had a fight with someone over stuff you can’t even remember? I mean you know you’re not speaking with the person, but why? Only God knows. That’s the situation I found myself with my lady Tonia. We hadn’t spoken all day and even the regular pings during break time at the office were not forth coming. Imagine, we didn’t even share our usual peck when I drop her off in the morning. Now, even my boss has noticed I’m not at my best today. I just couldn’t explain. My boss smiled and picked up the phone from the table. He handed it to me and asked me to call her right away. “Tell her you’re sorry”, he counseled, sounding like the father he has always been to me. His advice made a lot of sense.. I decided to immediately send her a text and a sweet voice over the blackberry messenger, something sweet.


Sam is mad at me, I know it. This morning he dropped me off without our usual good bye peck. I’ve been giving him his space all day but its not been easy. I’m scrolling through my phone address book right now and just staring at the phone when I got a beep, he sent me a voice note ^.^ and a text saying he’s sorry for not calling me all day. Sam is such a sweetheart… I have to call him back right away.



Imagine how this couple would have turned out if they had not reached out to each other. There’s nothing that can’t be resolved when the windows of communication are opened. And every problem seems magnified when theses same windows are close. Bottom line, communication is key.



I urge and plead with All African Youths, let’s ask DSTV to give Us a BBA where African Youths go and discuss, proffer solution to solve Africas Problems not this morally loosed show where single parents who can’t keep their relationships go into the house to show their fallen breast, drug addicts, porn stars , ill mannered people mix up and get rewarded. Ha! Having sex in the public with somebody who is not your spouse? God have mercy! The demon of sexual immorality has etched its ugly head into the show; hence the next sane option is to nip the program in the bud.
The BBA is all about immoral behavior and that is why it attracts lots of fans. They even prefer open sex every day. There is no single thing to learn from the program, they just promote sex and immorality. It’s time we ignore it & speak up against it, for what it’s worth.
How long does it take to imbibe a habit? 21 days; and BBA runs for 90days, subtly making people addicts to bad habits. Say No to TV shows without value. Reality shows with immorality is a No No!!!!!!

Spain’s utterly-average display in their  3-0 confederation’s cup defeat to Brazil led to the usual suggestions that their era of supremacy is over. Kaput. Finito.

It’s a pretty tired follow-up that we see every time the Spaniards or the club football kings of tiki-taka, Barcelona, take the sort of beating they’re apparently only allowed to dish out these days.

In fact, there were plenty of participants on both sides at the Maracana who also featured the last time the ‘end of an era’ autopilots took to the skies – Bayern Munich’s brutal splattering of Barca in the Champions League last four.

It probably feels like deja vu to them. And to us spectators too.

But the truth is that this isn’t a death. Quite the opposite.

Football is alive. And a supposedly-meaningless tournament has provided the finishing touches to the resurrection.

Credit where it is due, Spain have been nothing short of amazing for the last six years. Their style of football has become a thing of sporting fashion and their success has made them one of, if not the top national football sides of all time.

But it was getting dull. So, so dull.

Tiki-taka will keep the ball. Tiki-taka will keep the ball some more. Tiki-taka will be salivated over and worshipped by puny opponents. Tiki-taka will sap the willpower of everyone in sight.

ED is not saying that Spain and Barcelona must do badly for football to prosper. We’ve just been in dire need of someone, anyone, to drag them out of their almost painfully smug comfort zones.

Bayern did that in the spring, and now Brazil have followed suit in a wonderful culmination of a staggeringly enjoyable ‘minor’ event. Neither side were underdogs, of course, but their successful approaches against tiki-taka can and will be replicated.

Sure, Spain could yet easily retain the World Cup on the very same pitch which hosted their dissection, and subsequently dismiss the 3-0 humbling as an insignificant blip on the road to another ‘real’ final.

But there now exists cast-iron evidence that tiki-taka is not the only way to play these days.

Not only that, but the antidote to the Spanish stronghold cooked up an absolute humdinger of a contest for a massive global audience. And exciting, open football matches are good, right?

Brazil of course would love to replicate the deafening roars inside the Maracana in a year’s time. They have reason to believe they can do anything at the moment.

But their key to success against Spain was not exactly rocket science. They simply showed the world champions no respect, put them under intense pressure and forced them into unfamiliar, uncomfortable territory.

And even when the Spanish hit their attacking stride, Brazil showed the true meaning of a superb defensive display (SPOILER ALERT: it isn’t putting 10 men inside their own final third). Julio Cesar, David Luiz and Thiago Silva in particular were superb.

Brazil have a shedload of quality players at their disposal, of course: a country of 193 million football-obsessed people means the deepest talent pool on the planet.

But they are not the only country who can realistically take the same approach. There are at least half a dozen nations with the firepower to match Sunday night’s intrepid approach and open up a ton of otherwise lop-sided games.

If more teams wake up from the hypnotic spell football has been under thanks to Spain and Barca, the 2014 World Cup will be wide open. The action will feel fresher. And it won’t just be in Spain matches where things improve.

Every match between a clear favorite and a clear underdog will no longer likely be a tedious tussle between classy and cynical play. Put the superior teams under pressure. Roll the dice.

It may end in a heavier defeat but it could yield a performance with the guts and glory that Big Phil Scolari and his boys treated a delighted partisan crowd to on Sunday.

The common case against this argument appears to be Tahiti. Who would want to ship six, seven or 10 and ‘devalue the tournament’ when they can just plead guilty to the crime of being less developed as a nation and accept the lesser charge of a 2-0 snore-fest reverse?

What tripe. Tahiti devalued nothing. They earned their spot and they attracted more casual fans than your average whipping boy ever could.

The Confederations Cup has proven that a little hustle and a complete lack of fear is a breath of fresh air.

And even Spain now must go back to the drawing board and add a few new wrinkles to their battle plan if they are to be sure of a second world title in 2014.

Their loss could be a huge win for fans bored with 99% of the world accepting their roles in tournaments.

Here’s hoping it really does shake things up on the road to the finals, and isn’t just a one-off.

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